There are so many great books that can be used to support you in your efforts to change. Here are some of the best that i have found for helping through the difficult issues. The titles are divided along subject types.
12 Stupid Things That Mess Up Recovery: Avoiding Relapse Through Self Awareness and Right Action by Allen Berger, PhD
Stage II Recovery: Life Beyond Addiction by Earnie Larsen
Loving The Adult Child Of An Alcoholic by Douglas Bey, MD and Deborah Bey, RN
Cracked: Life On The Edge in A Rehab Clinic By Drew Pinsky, M.D.
When Painkillers Become Dangerous: What Everyone Needs to Know About OxyContin and other Prescription Drugs By Drew Pinsky, M.D.
When Your Partner Has an Addiction: How Compassion Can Transform Your Relationship (and Heal You Both in the Process)
by Christopher Kennedy Lawford and Beverly Engel
Affect Regulationand the Repair of the Self By Allen Shore, Ph.D.
The Polyvagal Theory: Neurophysiological Foundations of Emotions, Attachment, Communication, and Self-regulation By Steven Porges, M.D.
Parenting From The Inside Out By Dan Siegel, M.D.
Brainstorm: The Power and Purpose of the Teenage Brain By Dan Siegel, M.D.
The Art & Science of Love: A Couples Workshop
on DVD by John Gottman PhD
Why Marriages Succeed or Fail: And How You Can Make Yours Last by John Gottman PhD
And Baby Makes Three: The Six-Step Plan for Preserving Marital Intimacy and Rekindling Romance After Baby Arrives by John Gottman PhD
Love Is a Choice: The Definitive Book on Letting Go of Unhealthy Relationships By Paul Meier, MD
If I'm So Wonderful, Why Am I Still Single?: Ten Strategies That Will Change Your Love Life Forever by Susan Page
The Men They Will Become By Eli Newberger, M.D.
Raising Cain: Protecting the Emotional Life of Boys By Dan Kindlon, Ph.D., and Michael Thompson, Ph.D.